Even as an adult, life can be hard at times.
But it can be much harder for children to deal with things when they happen. Often things are happening that they have never experienced before. Things can be confusing, and they can be scary.
Encouraging words can have a positive effect for your children not just for now, but for years to come. And the same way that negativity can have a detrimental effect for the rest of their lives. There is far too much negativity in the world.
Always think of encouraging things to say to your child every day, or at least as often as you can.
It can strengthen your relationship and help to create an unbreakable bond with your child.
The things you should say to your child every day
How are you feeling?
I think it’s happening more and more that kids and even adults are keeping their feelings to themselves. Trying not to show when things aren’t going as well as they seem. Asking them directly may give them more of an opportunity to start a conversation that maybe they aren’t doing so good.
Often kids go through times when they aren’t happy with themselves and wish they were more like others. It’s important they embrace their uniqueness and accept themselves for who they are. Who wants to be exactly like everyone else anyway? Don’t let other people define who you are.
I love being with you
Hearing this helps kids to feel happier and secure. No one wants to feel like they are there just because. Wanting to be with someone and spending time with them helps them to feel better about themselves.
You are important
It’s important for everyone, especially kids to know they are important, and very much meant to be here. Everyone should feel like they belong.
That’s a great idea
We all like for our opinions to be validated and for other people to think we are smart and have come up with someone great. It can help improve their feelings of worthiness and willingness to come up with new ideas.
It’s important for kids to see that everyone makes mistakes, but you should own up and take responsibility for them. We need to set that example for them. If you have said or done something you shouldn’t have, don’t hesitate to say you are sorry. It is not being weak to apologise for making a mistake. It shows strength for owning up to it.
It’s okay to cry
It has become a kind of a belief that it’s wrong to cry. Children need to know that it’s okay to express their feelings and that it is okay to cry. Crying helps release the built up tension, helps them to feel better about whatever it is that upset them. Everyone cries sometimes. It is a natural response to pain, either physical or emotional. It doesn’t feel good to keep all the emotions bottled up inside. Get it out, and if that means crying, go for it!
I’m proud of you
Everyone likes to think someone is proud of them, especially children. It helps give their self esteem a boost and they will be more likely to try new things.
Things don’t have to be perfect
Too much emphasis can be placed on being perfect. It’s important for children to see that just because things aren’t perfect that it’s worthless. Trying to be perfect creates too much pressure and expectations that no one can keep up with, and can lead to anxiety in children. Just do the best you can.
It’s okay to make mistakes
Everyone makes mistakes at some point. Learn the lesson, and move on. If you keep dwelling on a mistake you made a long time ago, you will miss out on so many more opportunities because you can’t get past it.
It’s okay to be scared
We all have things that scare us sometimes. Many times children are coming across new things, and new things can often terrify them. Especially when there is a lot of things they haven’t experienced yet. The world can seem like a very scary place. Even adults are not immune to being scared.
You can’t control everything
It can be frustrating when we often come up against things we can’t control. Yet we dwell over them anyway and have it suck away at our happiness. If you can’t change it, it’s not worth worrying about.
Never give up
Where would the world be today if everyone gave up on something because it was too hard or wouldn’t work the first time? Perseverance is important. And they will feel a great sense of accomplishment when they finally achieve something they kept going at, even though it was really difficult.
Don’t listen to negativity
Sometimes people may try to put you down in an attempt to make themselves feel or look better. There will always be nasty people in the world, and anything said with a mean intent is better brushed away and not given a second thought about. Life is too short to deal with negativity.
What do you think?
Children like to be asked their opinion. They like to know that their opinions matter and are valued, and it helps them to feel like an important part of the family.
You make me happy
Everyone likes to feel like they are important to someone, and kids especially love to hear it from their parents. Doesn’t it make you happy to think you have made someone else happy?
I love you
Always tell your children you love them. Several times a day. If there is only one thing you tell your child every day, it should always be, “I love you”.
We always want what’s best for our kids. The things we say to them can have a huge impact on the way they view the world and how they feel about their place in it.
Always think about the positive things to say to your child. When children hear positivity on a daily basis, they do better, see the world better and become more involved and feel like they belong and are loved.
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What things do you tell your children every day?