Things I Want my Son to Know

I remember looking at my son when he was born and wondering about the kind of person he would be when he grew up. What would he look like? What would he love doing? What kind of person would he be?

As he got older, he definitely tested my patience, so much that I thought we would never get through it. But it also changed the way I viewed a lot of things. And it changed the person I was, and gave me strength I never knew I had.

I want my son to grow up being the best person he can be, the person he wants to be. And as he gets older, there are things I want him to grow up knowing.

The Things I Want my Son to Know

I will always love you, no matter what

There may be times I am frustrated or angry, or don’t agree with your decisions, but I will always love you, no matter what.

You are stronger than you think

We have definitely had a fight of wills so many times over the years, so I know how strong you are.

Don’t let anyone else tell you who you are

You are unique. You are who you are. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you should change who you are to fit in with who they think you should be.

Take your own path

Don’t feel like you need to follow what everyone else is doing. Do what you feel is right for you. Be your own person. Create your own path. Don’t live your life in somebody else’s shadow.

Don’t let your fears and anxieties take over

It can be easy to let your fears and worries take over your life. They can consume you to the point that you can’t see past them. Don’t let them hold you back from living the life you want. Trust me, I’ve been there.

Stand up for yourself

Don’t let anyone make you feel like you don’t belong or that you are worthless.

Do things because they make you happy

If it makes you happy, go for it! Life is too short not to. If it makes you smile, or makes you feel good about yourself, it is worth it.

Expressing emotions isn’t a bad thing

We all have emotions we have to get out every now and then. Don’t bottle it all up only to have it all come bursting out at once.

Don’t forget your worth

There will always be people who will try and tear you down. The important thing is for you to remember your worth, and their words or actions will have less impact on you. If you believe in yourself it will be harder for them to bring you down.

Don’t compare yourself to anyone

It’s an easy habit to get into. But try not to compare yourself to anyone. Everyone is unique and has their own special talents. Stay on your own path and work on your own dreams and goals. Everyone has their own destination, and they are doing what they need to, to get to theirs.

Some people are just mean

It can be hard to come to terms with the fact that some people are just mean. They might try and hurt you just because they can. Remember who you are, and try not to let their insults get in too deep. Sometimes people just want to put others down because it makes them feel better. It says more about them, than you. And if people are trying to put you down, stay away from them. They aren’t worth it.

Be proud of who you are

Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for who you are. If they don’t like you, it’s their problem. You are unique, you are special and you are the only you in the world.

Life isn’t easy

Most things that are worth doing aren’t easy. Get out of your comfort zone. Do your best, and take that risk. It isn’t always easy, but it can be wonderful.

Dream big, but be realistic

Always be aiming for something. Reach for the stars. Have dreams or goals in mind and do what you can to reach them. But be realistic. Trying for something that is unattainable is only going to end in heartbreak.

Always do the best you can

If you’ve done your best, then that’s enough.

You can tell me anything

I know there might be times you don’t want to. But always remember I will still love you, no matter what.

Age doesn’t change anything

No matter how old you get, I will always worry. I will always care. I will always be there whenever you need me.

Never forget how loved you are

There may be times in life when you are ready to give up, when things are hard, and you just can’t be bothered. But whenever things might look dark, please never forget how loved you are.

To my son. It’s hard to believe you are eight now. You are growing so fast, and there are so many things I want you to know. You are amazing, you are awesome and I hope I have given you enough to grow into the person I know you can be. And wherever you choose to go in life, I know I will be proud of you.

You are stronger than you think, and you are smarter than you realise. And I will always be proud to be your mum.

What things do you want your son to know?